How To Be A Calmer Parent

Parenting is stressful. Wonderful — and stressful. As a parent, you have ultimate responsibility for another person’s life and well-being, and that can often feel overwhelming. You might even start questioning yourself and your abilities, which can lead to rising anxiety and decreased patience.  

If you feel like this, you’re not alone. Your short-tempered outbursts might make you feel guilty, but they are also a natural part of being stressed and not having a chance to calm yourself when you need to. Yet there are ways that it can be done; you can become a calmer parent. Here’s how: 

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Step Back 

Life will always be full of ups and downs, and if something doesn’t go quite according to plan, no matter what it is, you will feel stressed about it. It might not even have anything to do with your children directly; anything from financial issues to stress at work to having a car accident and needing a team of experienced car accident lawyers to assist you, to burning dinner can cause your stress levels to mount up, and then tempers will flare. 

To be a calmer parent, step back. Step away from the problem that is plaguing you and look at it in a much more objective, pragmatic way instead of being right in the middle of things. Not only will this reduce your stress levels (making you feel calmer and allowing you to be better with your children), but it will also make it easier to come up with a solution. Emotions will get in the way of any proactivity, which is why stepping back and reassessing is the best course of action every time.  

Alone Time 

When you are a parent, alone time is absolutely vital. You cannot be there for everyone else at all times, doing countless jobs, big and small, without taking at least a little while to recharge your batteries by yourself. It might be that 30 minutes listening to your favorite music or watching an episode of a show you love is all it takes. Maybe you need longer, so you can take a warm bath filled with essential oils or you go out for a walk.  

Whatever it is, being able to spend some time by yourself to think, refocus, regroup, and recharge means that, when you return to your family, you will be less stressed and more able to parent in a calm manner. 


When was the last time you really, truly, laughed out loud and had fun? If it’s been a while then it’s time to start laughing again – it can do a powerful lot of good for the body and the mind, and it will certainly decrease your stress levels.  

Not only this, but when your children see you happy and laughing, they will be happy too. Their own stress levels which might have climbed when you were emanating a stressful aura into the household can dissipate, making the home a more comfortable place to be for everyone. 

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