In Defense of Single Moms Raising Boys

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Many people are horrified at the thought of single moms raising boys. In fact, some take it further and blame single moms for boys’ violent acts and declining academic achievement. Suzanne Venker, author of The War on Men, recently wrote: At home, boys of single mothers are largely responsible for themselves, which is why so […]

Why I’m Building Boys

I’m building boys because I was blessed with four of them. My advocacy on behalf of boys — heck, most of my career, at this point — grew out of the simple fact that I am a mother of four boys. Being a mom of boys opened my eyes to things I’d never even considered […]

Yes, Boys Can Dance

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It’s 2019. I can’t believe I have to say this, but here it goes: BOYS CAN DANCE.  One day after releasing a podcast episode with the creator of #MyBoyCan, a international movement founded by Sassy Harvey after her 4-year-old son was told he must be either “gay” or “a girl” because he attended dance class, […]

Stop Assuming Boys Are Bad

“Something unexpected happened…” That’s the lead-up to this CBS New story about a middle school boy who befriended a 5 year old with autism: It’s supposed to be a simple feel-good story, the kind the news feeds us every now and then to remind us that all is not lost and that there is still […]

Top Posts of 2018

2018 was an interesting year. The #MeToo movement gained strength, bringing discussions of sexual harassment and assault into national conversation. Famous men fell from their perches, and subsequently, a whole lot of us started talking about how to raise good, decent boys. More than 300 mass shootings occurred here in the U.S. — including massacres […]

The Boy Crisis is Real

Is there a “boy crisis?’ Yes, despite the fact that men still remain in control of most companies and governments throughout the world. Continued male dominance of professions and power is obscuring the fact that boys and young men are struggling — and their struggles affect us all. That, in a nutshell, is the premise […]

A New Podcast About Raising & Educating Boys

  On Boys: Real Talk about Parenting, Teaching and Reaching Tomorrow’s Men is live TODAY! If you’ve ever wondered, why do boys DO that?,  this is the podcast for you. My co-host, Janet Allison, and I have spent the past three months planning and building this podcast. We’re already talked about helping boys deal with […]

3 Tragic Consequences Of Telling Boys To “Man Up”

Much has been said about how damaging it is to live in a culture which tells boys and young men to “man up“. By continuing to use this kind of language, we unwittingly perpetuate the myth that not only is “manning up” preferable, but that it’s not good to show any signs of weakness or […]

How to Help Your Child Deal With Bullying

If your child isn’t enjoying school, it may because he’s being bullied. When you find out a child is being bullied, you wish you could take their place. However, all you can do is give your child the tools they need to stop it from happening. As much as parents would love to wrap their children […]

Why a Masculinity Camp for 8-Year-Old Boys is a Good Idea

Masculinity and sexuality are not the same thing. That statement seems so incredibly obvious to me — and perhaps to you too — but I’m compelled to state it, straight up, after reading this critique of a Santa Monica masculinity camp for boys: “In Freudian terms, age 8 to 11 falls in the period of […]