Top Posts of 2018

2018 was an interesting year. The #MeToo movement gained strength, bringing discussions of sexual harassment and assault into national conversation. Famous men fell from their perches, and subsequently, a whole lot of us started talking about how to raise good, decent boys. More than 300 mass shootings occurred here in the U.S. — including massacres […]

How to Stop School Shootings

There have been 18 school shootings in the United States in 2018* – in a year that is only 46 days old.  Yesterday, a 19-year-old male — and yes: to date, the school shooters have all been male — walked into his former high school, Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School in Parkland, Florida, and killed 17 […]

Dear Young Men, by David Cain

Dear young men, I want to tell you what I wish I’d been told, as I bumbled through the awkward years between 15 and 25. This whole letter might sound self-important, coming from a 34-year-old who writes mostly about how he’s just beginning to get the hang of adult life. Maybe it is, and you […]

Rape Culture, Explained

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Do you live or work with teen boys? Sit them down and watch this video with them. Jeremy Loveday’s spoken word poem clearly explains what rape culture is — and what boys and young men can do to decrease violence in our culture.

Common Sense Guidelines for Gun Play

If you have boys, you can safely assume that, at some point, they will play with guns. If your boys happen to be young — say, under the age of two — you may be vigorously disagreeing with me right now. You might be thinking, My boys will never play with guns!  I have news […]

Where Is the Outrage?

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My morning routine: wake up, have a cup of coffee, get the kids to school, scroll through news headlines on Google before starting work. This morning, one headline caught my eye: 13 shot in Chicago city park.  I clicked over to Facebook, fully expecting see comment after comment expressing outrage at yet another mass shooting. […]