Top Posts of 2019

2019: Conversations about boys move to center stage. CBSN created a documentary about raising boys. The American Psychological Association released recommendations for working with boys and men, igniting a debate about “traditional masculinity.” At home, parents of boys continued to grapple with screen time and video games. In schools, boys were still disproportionately represented at […]

When Boys Refuse to Do “Stupid” Homework

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  What do you do with a son who refuses to do this homework? Especially a son who refuses out of principle — a son who most certainly could do the homework, but has decided it’s not worth his time and energy? This is not a rhetorical question. This is a question I have faced […]

Stop Assuming Boys Are Bad

“Something unexpected happened…” That’s the lead-up to this CBS New story about a middle school boy who befriended a 5 year old with autism: It’s supposed to be a simple feel-good story, the kind the news feeds us every now and then to remind us that all is not lost and that there is still […]

How to Deal with an Unmotivated Boy

Do you have an unmotivated boy? You’re not alone. If fact, according to the comments I hear from parents of boys all over the world, motivated boys are the aberration, especially in the tween and teen years. It’s far more common to hear things like: “My son is 15. He is completely unmotivated. He hates […]

Why Boys are Hypercompetitive (and What To Do About It)

Do you have a hypercompetitive son? One who simply has to win at all costs, who goes all out, all the time? You’re not alone. A BuildingBoys reader recently wrote: My son is 10 and he and friends play like they are going to the Olympics every time. I don’t want them to be less […]

Don’t Succumb to Fear

To a certain extent, being a parent today means living in a state of perpetual fear. We worry about our children’s well-being. We see and hear news stories about kidnappings and murders and sick children, and we hope and pray that nothing that terrible ever happens to our children, while also knowing that there’s next-to-nothing we […]

The Inside Scoop on Parenting Tween Boys

When my friend and colleague Janet Allison of Boys Alive! asked me to share the realities of parenting tween boys during this months’ Boy Talk, I jumped at the chance. Little did I know how real this conversation was going to be! Check it out:

Top 6 Tips for Parenting Tween Boys

Got a son between the ages of 10 and 14? Listen up. Some big changes are headed your way. Big physical, psychological and social changes that can be jarring and scary — for you and your son. I’m not going to sugarcoat things here: parenting tween boys is a challenge. One day, you have a […]

Teen Boys Eat A Lot

That’s the conclusion of a scientific study. I know, right? Tell us something we don’ t know! But the study, published in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, could be reassurance for parents and teen boys in this day and age of eating disorders. While we tend to associate eating disorders, dieting and poor body […]

Books ‘Bout Boys: Packaging Boyhood

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Like it or not, the media has a massive effect on today’s boys. That’s why I was so excited to see Packaging Boyhood: Saving Our Sons from Superheroes, Slackers, and Other Media Stereotypes , a new book by Lyn Mikel Brown, Sharon Lamb and Mark Tappan. Today, they share with us an excerpt about boys […]