Stop Assuming Boys Are Bad

“Something unexpected happened…” That’s the lead-up to this CBS New story about a middle school boy who befriended a 5 year old with autism: It’s supposed to be a simple feel-good story, the kind the news feeds us every now and then to remind us that all is not lost and that there is still […]

Why a Masculinity Camp for 8-Year-Old Boys is a Good Idea

Masculinity and sexuality are not the same thing. That statement seems so incredibly obvious to me — and perhaps to you too — but I’m compelled to state it, straight up, after reading this critique of a Santa Monica masculinity camp for boys: “In Freudian terms, age 8 to 11 falls in the period of […]

Dear Young Men, by David Cain

Dear young men, I want to tell you what I wish I’d been told, as I bumbled through the awkward years between 15 and 25. This whole letter might sound self-important, coming from a 34-year-old who writes mostly about how he’s just beginning to get the hang of adult life. Maybe it is, and you […]

Stop Demonizing Boys

The words we use to describe people influence our — and others’ — perceptions of them. That’s a fact I wish writer John Eligon had kept in mind as he was writing his New York Times profile of Michael Brown, the teenager shot and killed in Ferguson. Brown, Eligon tells us, “was no angel, with public […]

Man Up

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Poet Guante, with a powerful piece that touches on the hidden (and hurtful) messages in the phrase, “man up.”