Boys & Rape

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Photo by sboneham When we were kids, the sex talk pretty much consisted of a basic run down of the basics -what goes where, how babies are made and what miraculous changes we could soon expect in our adolescent bodies. But increasingly, parents are realizing that sex is more than biology, and that it’s essential […]

Porn & Parenting

What would you do if you discovered porn on your 13-year-old son’s computer? One dad left his son a compassionate, non-judgmental note. As reported by The Good Men Project, the dad wrote his son a note, explaining that the son’s visits to pornographic sites were probably what caused malware to mess up his computer. The […]

Pay Attention to Stop Sexual Abuse

Remember the sexual abuse case involving Jerry Sandusky and Penn State University? Did you know that the case took off because one mom starting questioning her son (and others) after he came home from Penn State with wet hair? Wet hair, friends. This mom knew her son and his routines so well that she knew […]

Helping Our Boys Thrive Amidst Skewed Images of Gender and Sexuality

You know that scene in the Wizard of Oz where Dorothy spies the man behind the curtain? That’s kind of how I feel after reading The Achilles Effect.  After reading the book, it’s impossible to miss the gender-oriented messages that are everywhere. Case in point: I had a few minutes to waste before interviewing Achilles […]

Criminal or Clueless? When Sex Means Jail

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Can you identify the person who allegedly raped you?”  “Yes your Honor,” says the girl. “He’s right there.”  She points and all eyes land on the pimply teenager, flanked by power suits—clearly his attorneys. The boy drops his head and a tear slides down his nose.  Could this be your son?  As a mom of […]

Helping Boys in a Sex-Soaked Society

At age six, my youngest son — my innocent, cherubic-faced son — told me that his “rich, secret life” would include lots of tractors. And 1000 girls. The tractors were no surprise. This boy has loved John Deere tractors and all kinds of heavy construction equipment from day one. 1000 girls, though? That surprised me. […]

Sexual Abuse and Penn State

By now, nearly everyone has heard the story of Jerry Sandusky, a former Penn State football coach, has been charged with molesting eight boys over a 15-year period. Sandusky denied molesting anyone, though he admits to showering and “horsing around” with young boys. Sadly, the allegations against Sandusky proved to be true, and as much as we’d […]

Why My Boys are Getting Gardisil — and Why Yours Should Too

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Have you heard of Gardisil? It’s one of the two HPV vaccines that are currently on the market. (The other is Cervarix.) HPV, or human papilloma virus, is shorthand for a number of HPV strains that are known to cause cancer. Put the pieces together. HPV causes cancer. There are two effective HPV — cancer […]

Birth Control and Boys

According to  a study by the Centers for Disease Control, 40% of teens aged 15 to 19 have had sex at least once. 81% of boys who engaged in sex reported using birth control during their first sexual encounter. That’s the good news, I suppose. Most of our teens are not having sex, and the […]

What Do Your Boys Know About Sex?

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According to a recent survey, the answer most likely is “not enough.” Researchers from Rand Corp., Virginia Commonwealth University and Children’s Hospital Boston surveyed 141 parents and their teens, ages 13 – 17. Sadly, many of teens — and most of the boys — had sex before their parents talked to them about STDs, birth […]