Raising Boys to Be Good Men: Book Review

I have spent two decades working on raising boys to be good men. Have I succeeded? Early signs look good — my 22 year old is living, working and studying independently in another state; my 19 year old recently cooked me a birthday dinner; and all 4 of my boys prioritize time with extended family […]

Reading Raising Cain

My oldest son wasn’t yet two when Raising Cain:Protecting the Emotional Life of Boys was published in 1999. At the time, I was so immersed in the process of parenting that I didn’t have any time to read and reflect on the experience. And, my son was young enough that I hadn’t yet needed to […]

How Parenting Teenage Boys Prepared Me for a Pandemic

None of us expected this pandemic, save maybe a few epidemiologists and public health experts who “expected” it in the same way we all “expect” to die, which is to say that we know it will happen, but we have no idea when or how or what it will feel like. Three months or so […]

Overwhelmed by Homeschooling? I Was Too.

You are not the only one who is overwhelmed by homeschooling. I wrote these words on January 24, 2005, shortly after we pulled our oldest son, Nathan, out of first grade at semester: I’m a state of shock.  It’s our first day homeschooling, and I have no rhythm, no flow, no sense of managing my […]

Talking About Coronavirus

How are you talking about coronavirus with your kids? I was prepared (mostly) for the sex talk. (Lots of sex talks.) And we’ve had lots of conversations about drinking, drugs, vaping, relationships, respect and a zillion other things. I hadn’t given any thought to how I’d discuss an infectious, emerging global pandemic, though. Yes, health […]

Parenting Through a Pandemic

I don’t know how to do this. I have zero experience parenting through a pandemic. I’ve worked-from-home before, so I have some apparently useful skills. My 15 years as a work-from-home freelance writer have taught me how to get work done when you really don’t feel like working (set a timer), as well as the […]

Selecting Preschools: Traditional Versus Montessori

Children are the future, and providing an excellent education can be one of the first steps in assisting them in leading the way. For instance, statistically, children who went to a quality preschool tended to excel in math and literacy sections on standardized tests, raising their chances of completing high school and then continuing on […]

Learning at Home

Learning at home can be fun. Right now, a lot of parents are freaking out at the prospect of schooling their kids while also working from home. And wondering if it’s even possible to do both without going crazy. It’s possible. In fact, it can be be downright wonderful. I homeschooled our boys for 7 […]

Teens & Memes: What I Learned

Tackling the subject of teens and memes is a bit…fraught. Last week, the New York Times published my article, The Role of Memes in Teen Culture. The article is aimed at parents (and grandparents and teachers), and it’s intended purpose is to help adults understand why and how teens use memes. It grew out of […]

Understanding (& Helping) Black Boys

group of African-American boys

On the whole, black boys fare worse that white boys on just about every measure: They are more likely to fail in schools, and more likely to drop out prior to graduation. They are less likely to attend (or graduate) from college, and less likely to land a good-paying job. They are more likely to […]